Dear Kings: How Could You?
This article was originally posted on March 30, 2010 here.
It was written during the Kings’ post-Olympic losing skid, just when we all thought they were about to challenge for the fourth seed in the Western Conference, and we were getting scared of potentially missing the playoffs yet again.
This is really hard for me to say.
I think I have to break up with you.
We have been together for most of my life now, ever since we were both fairly young, and I know I’ve stuck by you through it all, the rough times and the prosperous times.
I know you think I only noticed you at the height of your popularity in the mid 80’s, but the only reason for that was because I was a fetus before that. You understand.
But those early stages of our relationship were so full of excitement and wonderful emotions; reminiscing on those days makes me happier than just about anything else.
Then came the ups and downs of the 90’s, but it was OK because our relationship was still young and we didn’t really have any expectations of where we were going. I know it got pretty serious there for a while, and we both decided we should back off a little because neither of us really knew what we were doing.
I gave you your space in the 2000’s and you promised you’d come back to me.
I feel like it all started a couple years ago when you wanted to go to Europe . I just couldn’t go with you at the time with all my obligations, but you went anyway. While I was worried and nervous for what it would do to our future, I was really happy for you. You went and you flourished just as I knew you would.
When you came back, I felt like things were different. I had some of those great magical feelings just like from before, but it just wasn’t the same. And then we went through a rocky patch for the next couple of years. Although they weren’t completely unfounded or unexpected, the time left a scar. And I know you experimented with some of your youth there ; it may have seemed like a good idea at the time, but it also may have hurt things in the long run.
Then last year, for your annual trip to Las Vegas (which has always been a sore spot with me because I never know what you do there and why you think it’s always so great even though it “technically” doesn’t mean anything) I was finally able to go with you, and it was incredible . I thought it was really moving us in the right direction and gave us a chance to move forward together.
And at first, it was everything I thought it could be . It was just like everything was brand new again, the emotions and excitement, it was all so romantic.
I know we decided to take a brief step back recently , on the grounds that it was for a set period of time, and to just try seeing other people for a couple weeks. It was pretty enjoyable , but I don’t know if that was the best thing for us.
Now things have been moving so fast, and I just feel like you’ve been saying one thing and doing another. I KNOW you love me, I know you do, but you just don’t know how to show it, and frankly, I just don’t know how to deal with that.
I’ve been hearing from other people that you’re thinking of taking things to the next level, and starting to get serious about a commitment, but you just haven’t shown it and I just feel like, after all we’ve been through together, that I deserve it.
I mean we have had some truly amazing times together, some of the best times of my life, but I just cannot handle the strain of our relationship anymore. The stress is just too much. I keep having visions of us together on on a grand scale, but when I open my eyes it just doesn’t seem realistic right now.
I know you have made promises that everything will be terrific if I can just wait it out, but you keep sending me mixed messages and I just get so emotional and I don’t know how to handle it all.
I don’t WANT to break up. I want us to be together. I just want you to show that you care. Please. Just show me something. I know you’re on the road right now and you will visit someone that has caused a lot of problems lately and you seem to just not be yourself around them, and I cannot for the life of me figure out why. They aren’t that great I have been trying to tell you, but you just won’t listen. I just know if you can keep focused you will triumph and then you can just say, “We didn’t listen!”
Please, don’t make me do this. Let’s get serious, together. You can get me that ring I’ve always wanted , and not one from the guy on the street corner in the Fashion District. Start right now.